Where World Changers Meet https://whereworldchangersmeet.com The Home of The Conversation Event Mon, 11 Feb 2019 19:20:15 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.2.2 Being Well-Known or Being Known Well? https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/being-well-known-or-being-known-well/ https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/being-well-known-or-being-known-well/#comments Thu, 27 Sep 2018 05:00:51 +0000 https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/?p=119872 Relationships, real relationships in business and in personal lives involve being known well and knowing others well.  These quality relationships with colleagues, friends, customers and business associates go beyond what just being well-known can bring.  In today’s measure, well-known can be the number of followers, retweets, going viral or trending, number of downloads, likes or shares.  By contrast, to be known well takes a real, human engagement, sincere caring and interaction over a period of time.  

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Dear Younger Me:

I trust you remember how much as a young boy in the sleepy beach town of Dunedin, Florida, that I loved baseball.  I lived, breathed, and played it as much as I could.  Together, Dad and I watched almost every Saturday afternoon “Game of The Week” on television.  As we de-shelled and devoured the salted peanuts, my attention was glued to every pitch, every swing, and every play.  To hear a non-Saturday game required carefully tuning the AM transistor radio at night in my bedroom, often to a weakly powered radio station often hardly audible.  Remember? Ah Baseball!

One time per year though, usually during March, the excitement of professional Spring Training baseball energized our little town. The anticipation of teams coming to train for six weeks getting ready for the new Major League Baseball Season was intense.  Really?  Once a year, we actually saw these amazing baseball players in person and watched them sharpen their skills in our town before leaving for New York, Philadelphia, Cincinnati, Toronto, Boston, and beyond to begin their regular season?  No wonder I slept with my glove under my pillow each night.    This kind of “in awe” feeling made seeing these well-known players, looking larger than life and giving the feeling that I knew them well.

So, what is this about?  Life lessons have taught me there is a significant difference what is seemingly an insignificant, re-arrangement of these two words.  Well-known -> Known well.  To say someone is well-known merely places an external label that connotes notoriety, being recognized in a large way.  This could be attached to someone popular, maybe well-skilled at something, or just notable for something that draws the attention of many.  I now understand these baseball players who I saw and admired were just well-known.  I did not know them at all, let alone well.

Relationships, real relationships in business and in personal lives involve being known well and knowing others well.  These quality relationships with colleagues, friends, customers and business associates go beyond what just being well-known can bring.  In today’s measure, well-known can be the number of followers, retweets, going viral or trending, number of downloads, likes or shares.  By contrast, to be known well takes a real, human engagement, sincere caring and interaction over a period of time.   There is a desire to find common ground for personal, professional, and maybe even a deeper level of connection with others.

While both of these “beings” are relevant and meaningful, which would you rather be, well-known or known well?  If you struggle with identity, meaning, or purpose in life, business or relationships, I recommend you seek opportunities to be known and know others well.  Your situation will improve almost instantly.  Seek to know others well and allow yourself to become known well.

Keeps developing meaningful connections
Not interested in quantity, instead seeks quality
Owns and invests in self and relationships
Works to understand and to be understood
Notable by noticing the nuances

Walks side by side with others
Elevates and elevated by those around him/her
Listens first, long, and often
Loves without condition

– Bruce Pulver

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Beyond Mediocrity https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/beyond-mediocrity/ https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/beyond-mediocrity/#comments Tue, 25 Sep 2018 05:00:07 +0000 https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/?p=119869 Be different. Be hungry for a greater purpose in your life. Don't let laziness or excuses consume you. Don't just merely exist. Live! Grab life by the horns! Don't get mad at us “foreigners” if you deem us more educated or more successful than you. Instead of wasting your energy on being angry, invest that energy in doing the same thing for yourself, your future.

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Dear Worldchanger,

It hasn’t been easy being a first generation immigrant in this great country, the USA. But that’s okay because easy is no fun. It’s boring. Easy can keep you stagnant, complacent and flat-footed. In order to grow, you want to always be on your toes, not flat-footed. Learn something new every day, even if it’s something that seems minor and trivial.

Even after 42 years of being in this land of plenty, it never ceases to amaze me how some individuals let opportunities just pass them by. There’s a reason that us “foreigners” chose this country as a destination to rebuild our lives. It is with fortitude and determination that we forge forward to achieve a better and brighter future for ourselves and our loved ones. As for you, do you realize how fortunate you are to have all of this? Don’t take your wonderful country and all this freedom for granted. You can say and do whatever you want here in the US. Not so, in a communist country. They can kill you for saying and doing the wrong thing.

Be different. Be hungry for a greater purpose in your life. Don’t let laziness or excuses consume you. Don’t just merely exist. Live! Grab life by the horns! Don’t get mad at us “foreigners” if you deem us more educated or more successful than you. Instead of wasting your energy on being angry, invest that energy in doing the same thing for yourself, your future.

Be purposeful and intentional with each of your thoughts and actions. It doesn’t matter what job you’re performing. Even if it’s scrubbing toilets for a living. Do it well or don’t do it at all. Don’t be mediocre with anything in your life. It’s easy to be average. It takes hard work to rise above that. Are you up for the challenge? How much do you want to get out of the short life that you have here? With everything that you do, ask yourself how you would stand out from the crowd? How are you going to deviate from the norm? My father posed these questions to me as I was getting ready to graduate high school. I have never forgotten them because they permeate and direct my life. They’re part of my core values. I hope that they do the same for you.

As an optometrist, all I need to do is get the patients in, get them out. No more, no less. Just do my “eye doctor” thing, right? Wrong! People have many choices as to where to go for their eye exams. I have fierce competitions within a mile radius of my office. The long-termed success of my practice is predicated upon me standing out from others by my delivery of exceptional patient care. It’s easy to be like others, but it takes more work and dedication to be different. Being mediocre is not in my blood. Don’t be afraid to deviate far from the norm. Stick to your beliefs and to what defines who you are. Be real and genuine. Reach beyond mediocrity! With this mindset, my practice continues to thrive after nearly two decades. I am blessed. I implore upon you to embrace a similar way of thinking.

Last but not least, remember to mind your manners. Be kind and respectful. Don’t forget your please and thank you’s. Be thoughtful and empathetic. It’s not always about you. The world does not revolve around your ass. In working with the public, it just blows my mind the degree of rudeness and selfishness that I witness on a daily basis. Most patients seem surprised at how polite and nice I am to them. Certainly, you can see the disconnect between my standards versus what is considered acceptable in today’s society. Just because it’s acceptable doesn’t mean that you should behave like that. Refuse to accept society’s norm as your norm. Again, don’t be like the majority. Be the minority. You’ll leave a longer lasting and more positive impression with others when you stand out from the crowd when you deviate far from mediocrity. You’ll get farther in life. And you’ll make your parents proud because who you are is a reflection of your upbringing.

I can go on forever, but I just wanted to share some of these insights from a “foreigner” with you. Live a life of gratitude on a daily basis. Make a difference every day and make each day count. Life is a blessing and a most wonderful gift. Maximize it! You matter!

Many blessings,

Dr. Susan Truong

 

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Choose Love https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/choose-love/ https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/choose-love/#comments Fri, 21 Sep 2018 05:00:28 +0000 https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/?p=119866 Don't let the world change your smile; let your smile change the world!

I don't know who said it but it resonates with me, right into my soul. Dear beautiful young person, the world will try to change your smile. The darkness, the haters, the horrific things that are happening around us will try to change your smile, but if you lose yours the world has no hope...

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Dear You,

Don’t let the world change your smile; let your smile change the world!

I don’t know who said it but it resonates with me, right into my soul. Dear beautiful young person, the world will try to change your smile. The darkness, the haters, the horrific things that are happening around us will try to change your smile, but if you lose yours the world has no hope…

Life can be full of disappointments. We treat people in a certain way and expect at least equal treatment in return. How often does it turn out exactly the opposite?

A simple example, whenever the opportunity arises you let someone into the line of traffic that you are in. They wave to you and you wave back. And then it is your turn to try to get into the line of traffic and no one stops to let you in. Are you angry? Of course you are! You may decide that you will not let people into the line of traffic anymore…

This is such a small example but think about more important things in life. Someone told me a story once, about a woman who was smoking in a bus shelter. He was angry because he wanted to wait inside the shelter and it was a place where it was forbidden to smoke. To avoid the smoke he left the bus shelter and stood outside, irritated. A short while later, a man walked into the shelter. An argument between him and the woman ensued and he began to beat her. The young man, who told me the story, was smiling at this point, telling me how much the woman deserved to get punched in the face after she had the nerve to smoke in the bus shelter. This made me weep, not just because of what happened to the woman, but that this young man found it in his heart to hate her so much, a complete stranger, that he felt she deserved this. What had happened in this young man’s life to make him so uncompassionate and seemingly heartless?

Disappointment, injustice, disrespectful treatment, inequality in relationships can all make us feel jaded and like we just shouldn’t bother. So let’s imagine a world where every time someone’s expectations were not met, they just stopped trying. Where would it end and where would we be? Where would our relationship with our parents be, if our parents didn’t keep trying and didn’t keep loving us?

Dogs are amazing creatures! They love us no matter our mood, if we forgot to give them food or water, whether we don’t feel like going for a walk. None of that matters, they wag their tail, they smile at us, they lick us, and never have a memory for any disappointments we may have brought. Humans are different though aren’t they? We remember everything and some of us even have the urge for a little payback.

Here is the truth of it. If you follow the nature you were born with, which is to be loving and kind, every time you check that instinct, someone else wins. When people are mean, and you are mean back, when people are unfair and you are unfair back, when people are hurtful and you are hurtful back, they win! You have let the world change your smile because you are behaving counter-intuitively. No matter what anyone else ever says or does, be true to what is inside you, the good, the kindness, the loving nature and the joy. Those are the things that will ultimately change the world, not the hatred and the anger and the fear that is out there. Be part of the solution, in fact, my dear beautiful young person, you are the solution!

– Sylvia Marusyk

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It’s Not to Late https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/its-not-too-late/ https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/its-not-too-late/#comments Wed, 19 Sep 2018 16:58:45 +0000 https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/?p=119879 What is it you haven’t done that you want to do? As this year heads to a close, let’s do it together. Let us help you with your life team. You don't want to go to the world's LARGEST entrepreneur event. You want to go to the best. Be 1 of 100.

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What is it you haven’t done that you want to do? As this year heads to a close, let’s do it together. Let us help you with your life team. You don’t want to go to the world’s LARGEST entrepreneur event. You want to go to the best. Be 1 of 100.

Why are those massive conventions in Vegas so popular? Masses of people crammed into chairs under fluorescent lights.

That’s not for you.

You are the leader. Not the follower.

Who wants to be one of 10,000? No one. No one successful anyways.

Don’t be one of thousands, who cram into a stadium to listen to guru speakers. Come to The Conversation Mastermind for entrepreneurs and rub elbows with the best and most successful entrepreneurs in the world.

We want you at this event. If you haven’t done anything for yourself, now is the time. Invest in yourself. One night with world changers is better than a weekend at the spa, or a day long seminar under florescent lights.

Spend a night under the stars with people who will change your life.

Register now for The Conversation and be part of the 1 in 100 people chosen to attend this exclusive event.

Don’t wait, make the choice to invest in you.


 

 


One Night Can Change Your Life Forever

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Your True Self https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/your-true-self/ https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/your-true-self/#comments Wed, 19 Sep 2018 05:03:28 +0000 https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/?p=119863 You are at the point where you have all the ingredients for the foundation of your personality, but the cement has yet to settle. It’s likely that as you are now, you are persona non grata in the world you wish to create for yourself. To enter that world, you can only do it as your true self, no facades, no false bravado, no personas. If I asked, who are you? Would you say businessman, CEO, philanthropist, doctor, mother, father, brother, sister?

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Dear College Student,

You are at the point where you have all the ingredients for the foundation of your personality, but the cement has yet to settle. It’s likely that as you are now, you are persona non grata in the world you wish to create for yourself. To enter that world, you can only do it as your true self, no facades, no false bravado, no personas. If I asked, who are you? Would you say businessman, CEO, philanthropist, doctor, mother, father, brother, sister? Well, you’d be wrong with any such response because those are just nouns that describe what you are, not who you are. Most people couldn’t answer that question because it requires being vulnerable, admitting to yourself that you’ve spent all these years on this earth and yet barely know yourself. The journey to correct this flaw is very painful because it requires illuminating deeply rooted insecurities. As a result, most people either pretend these insecurities don’t exist or that they will resolve themselves over time. Such thinking is akin to attending a marathon without ever running to prepare for it but expecting to do well.

In the movie Deadpool, he receives his powers by essentially being placed in a pressure cooker. Similar to some of the other characters imbued with powers in the movie, they too were placed in the pressure chamber after being given a catalyst. However, depending on the individual, a different power would manifest based on how their body chose to adapt to the external distresses. Some individuals came out of the chamber with super strength, others unable to feel pain, and the main character Deadpool-regeneration. Apropos to that movie, we are placed in a pressure cooker from the day we are born until about the time we complete high school. Some of us, despite a tough childhood, may still grow up to be confident and secure individuals. Others may grow up to be callous, aggressive, apathetic, or insecure. Many of us in one way or another came out of this pressure cooker broken. We let ourselves heal incorrectly by creating false narratives, new identities, and confident personas. I emphasize persona because it’s just a false perception you present to the world based on how you wish for the world to perceive you. But a persona isn’t real. It’s an act, a practiced presentation style.

In my case, the distress placed on me enabled me to become greatly empathetic but also greatly insecure. Growing up, I didn’t have what would be considered a loving household. My parents valued respect above all else because, in typical African culture, respect, fear, and love are all just synonyms. I was emotionally fragile, living in a constant state of anxiety and it led me to believe that in order to be happy I had to be in a relationship with a woman. My outward expression, however, portrayed someone who was calm, happy, and confident. This façade very effectively hid my true emotional state. But the reality was that the one person who I was really trying to deceive was the one person that I couldn’t, myself. I didn’t know how to love myself or if there was anything to love. Every time someone saw through me, I resorted to my modus operandi – creating a new persona. The world pulled the strings on my cheap pride and I danced like a little marionette. I thought being loved would fix my lack of self-value. But the truth is, you teach people how to treat you. You can’t expect others to love you more than you love yourself. Though different people may have different origin stories as to how they became emotionally deficient, the ingredients are nonetheless the same.

But don’t fret. We are all granted two potential births, once into this world, and the second when you find your place among it. The second birth is both simple and difficult to execute. It requires that you be honest with yourself. Look back at your actions and how you’ve felt about yourself.  Find out why. Your mind is an incredible accountant. It has kept track of everything that has happened to you. But your mind can also be a corrupt accountant. It keeps track of every line item but when the bottom line is not balanced, it creates false assets [narratives] to balance the book. Search inside yourself and find out what false narrative you’ve created, and when you started to abide by it. Once you figure that out, try to verify why it’s true. I’m certain you will not be able to find sufficient evidence supporting those detrimental thoughts about yourself. You simply never truly questioned your view of yourself. Just as the broken version of myself is unwelcome to this new reality I have created for myself, so too must you do the same. You have to rewire your brain to see yourself differently and that requires repetition and affirmation. When you understand who you are and what you are truly capable of, you will know true strength and joy. It is unattached to financial status, social status, or how you are perceived by others.

  • Mory Diamonde

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You Have Purpose https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/you-have-purpose/ https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/you-have-purpose/#comments Mon, 17 Sep 2018 05:00:00 +0000 https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/?p=119852 What is the intention to our meeting in this letter? There is a question you want to answer, within yourself, and my hope is that you find it! You are a unique human being. You might think I don’t know you – and maybe I don’t. Without doubt or pause, I can still express that you are truly unique. How? You are here! If you walk this Earth, breathe our shared air, you have a purpose and gift! Don’t ever doubt that!

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Dear You,

What is the intention to our meeting in this letter? There is a question you want to answer, within yourself, and my hope is that you find it! You are a unique human being. You might think I don’t know you – and maybe I don’t. Without doubt or pause, I can still express that you are truly unique. How? You are here! If you walk this Earth, breathe our shared air, you have a purpose and gift! Don’t ever doubt that!

Discovering what yours might be could be the very question you are struggling to answer. Rather than being frustrated with the answer not coming to you quickly, have you considered that everything you are living and experiencing are preparing you for it?

Life has become so instant gratification – don’t fall prey to it. Appreciate the lessons that have gotten you to where you are, right now. Education, relationships, and loss all bring learning. As you leave our time together behind, let my experience and philosophies serve you in a way that brings value.

Find the positive intention in what otherwise only serves as a disappointment or hurt. This isn’t always easy to do, and frankly, it can be really hard to do. PUSH THROUGH IT. The experience of life is the only way to gain wisdom. Some of your greatest learnings will come from your greatest pain.

The greatest growth comes when you are the most uncomfortable. Just as you have to push yourself physically to prepare for a marathon, you have to do the same mentally and emotionally in life. Living within what is easy and safe will leave you stagnant and unfulfilled. As a mentor, this is where I have been able to have the greatest impact with so many. I see what you are capable of – and I am not okay with your leaving it untapped. As long as you know your mentor has your best interest at heart – trust them and their experience. You may not understand why they are being so demanding. You may even begin to think they don’t like you, or they’re mean. There will come a time you look back on that time, and appreciate their challenging you – I promise.

Be solutions-focused. There will be conflicts, challenges, and potential defeat in life. Before you can find the positive intention, you must first derive solutions to move through it. If you find yourself stuck, always have at least one suggestion to bring with you – and then collaborate with those that will elevate your skill. Moving through tough times builds character and skill, but the solution is at least a light at the end of the tunnel. It will help create momentum to reach it.

Choose your mood. From the moment you wake up, until the time you go to bed, you have total choice in this. I have a frame that reminds me, ‘Happiness requires daily practice.’ People and life will upset or aggravate you. It is inevitable. When this arises, remember my words: You don’t control whether you become mad or angry, but you have complete control over how long you are mad or angry.’ Loathing in it only perpetuates a negative mindset. Appreciate how you feel – determine what the positive intention could be that came from it – and then reset your mood. Your journey should be to joy, and all that comes with it.

Believe in yourself. As I wrote before, you are unique! You are unique mentally, physically, and emotionally. The World will show you images and ideas of what you will unconsciously begin to believe you should look, act, and feel like. Don’t fall for it! In your desire to become a better human being, don’t believe there is a carbon copy of what that means. Self-shaming and hate will never bring you closer to your purpose and gifts. Love yourself – and be unique.

Help/serve others. We are not created to be selfish, self-absorbed beings. Where do you feel drawn to do this? If you aren’t sure, make it important to figure it out. A heart in service is a grateful one. If you tell yourself you don’t have time for this, you haven’t found the right way to serve yet. You will make the time for what matters to you. The gratitude you feel, though wonderful, is a far cry from the significance of the blessing you are giving to another. If you think you are too busy in your life and career, who do you look up to? The greatest entrepreneurs of our time are incredibly rooted in service to others. It isn’t how they made their fortune, and they don’t do it for notoriety.

We have talked about a lot in this time together, and yet I feel we could chat about more. Many of these philosophies took decades to be clear, to me. My hope for you is that you will discover your great gifts, live your purpose, and as you gain wisdom from your life, help another along the way.

Should a question about our chat arise, I will be here for you. Reach out – and I will support you and your journey. In the meantime, BeYOUtiful!

Until then,
Tanya Waymire

 

 

 

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Leave it Better https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/leave-it-better/ https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/leave-it-better/#comments Thu, 13 Sep 2018 13:32:51 +0000 https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/?p=119858 I’m curious, how did you respond to me addressing you as a World Changer?

Did you relate to that with a proud “Of course!”? Maybe an accepting “Ok”? Or, would you relate better to being addressed as a “Future World Changer”? What defines success in terms of a World Changer and when do you become one?

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Hey World Changer,

I’m curious, how did you respond to me addressing you as a World Changer?

Did you relate to that with a proud “Of course!”? Maybe an accepting “Ok”? Or, would you relate better to being addressed as a “Future World Changer”? What defines success in terms of a World Changer and when do you become one?

In fact, what defines success in anything?

In this letter I want to share with you my perspective on three questions:

  1. What does it take to be a World Changer?
  2. What does success mean?
  3. What about all the terrible things that have or could happen to me?

Question 1.

To become a World Changer all it takes is a decision to change one or both of the following:

  1. Who YOU are
  2. The Life of others

You see, YOU are a part of the world and if you were to make a change in yourself then, as corny as it may sound, you will have changed the world. It follows that if you change the lives of other people then you will have changed the world.

Notice I did not say you would make the world a better place?

There have been many people in history that have changed the world and are recognized as “World Changers”. Nelson Mandela is one and Hitler is another. Also, President Obama and President Trump.

Their actions will be perceived by some as making a change for the better, and some will perceive them as for the worse.

So take note, every time you change or change life experiences for others, YOU change the world and some will perceive it as for the better and others may not.

What really matters is what YOU believe.

You must set the intention to be a better version of who you were yesterday. Take it from me, there will be days that you mess up!

Yet the trick is to have more better days than worse.  Truth be told, the more you genuinely believe you are making the lives of others better, the more you will automatically enrich your life AND be a World Changer that is a force for good (or God).

Promise me, and yourself, that you will commit to your personal development so you may help those you choose to serve, even more so.

Question 2 – What does success mean?

Once again it’s a decision based on your own perception.

Many measure success by their wealth, health, relationships, and may have their definitions defined by others.

Do you define success on your terms or the definition of others (society)?

Allow me to take you deeper down the rabbit hole, World Changer.

The true question is, “What needs to happen for me to feel successful?”

Ask yourself that question, seriously. What has to happen for you to feel successful?

For many, the default answer is when I achieve the goals or tasks I set for myself.

Here’s the challenge with that, especially for World Changers who set many goals and have BIG goals. They have more chance of experiencing failure than success on a daily basis.

Here’s my gift for you in the shape of another question.

Who has a greater probability of experiencing success?

Person A who defines success as “When I achieve my goals” or Person B who defines success as “When I give it a go”?

Which one has set up the game of success in their favor?

Definitely the person who defines success in a way that they have greater control will experience more success more often.

Promise me, and yourself, that you will commit to CHOOSING your definition of success as one that sets you up to experience success more often than not.

AND FINALLY

Question 3 – What about all the terrible things that have or could happen to me?

I’ve witnessed so many amazing souls who live a life of service, adding massive value to the lives of others, yet they neglect to take care of or know how to handle adversity in their own lives. They spend most of their waking days serving others so they do not have to think about, let alone address, their own challenges.

I’ve not only witnessed this in others it was true of me too. So, my final gift in this letter is also from my heart to yours.

Yes, it’s true.  Nothing gives me a greater sense of fulfillment than making a difference in the life of another individual and or groups of people.

The greatest return in business and life comes from adding value to the lives of others. 

From a very young age, I was efficient in this principle, yet I was always helping others because I needed to. It was my way of gaining a sense of self-worth.

It was not until I took care of my demons that I could move from must serve to now, serving globally because I want to (not have to).

After all my experiences of domestic violence growing up with an alcoholic father, who beat up my mother and me, sleeping on the rough streets of London as a kid, you would expect that I had a sense of low self-worth AND feeling not good enough.

So my gift is to share a truth that will not be taught at school, business school, or any university other than the University of Life.

 At school we are taught lessons and then given a test, whereas at the University of Life we are given the tests and then we learn the lessons!

The truth is that the feeling of not being good enough or worthy will cancel out any other perceived success you may have. It will cripple you especially as it is linked to the feeling of not being loved.

So what can you do about the challenges that lie ahead? And trust me they will come.

Anticipate that life will present us with tests so that we may in fact learn a lesson. The trick is to look for that lesson when adversity comes your way, whether that’s in Business Life or Private Life.

Remember, it’s not the adversity that will break you, it’s how you respond.

Here is the most powerful affirmation to use when you are facing adversity or have previously:  No matter what happens in my life, I get to choose the meaning.

Say it out loud with conviction – No Matter What Happens in My Life, I Get To Choose the Meaning! Your primary goal will be to ask what can I learn from this.

What meaning am I giving to this situation?

What can I learn from this situation?

What do I want this to mean?

Use The Power Of Focus!

Because the real Truth is that there is no Truth other than the Truth you give it.  Two people can lose their job; one person will see that as the most devastating loss and the other may see it as an opportunity to start something new.

It all comes down to what YOU choose to focus on. Remember, “Where attention goes energy flows.”

So promise me, and yourself, that you will commit to always choosing a greater meaning and response.

Hey World Changer (yes you), one final promise, please leave our beautiful world in a better place than when you found it. We are just borrowing it from our children’s children.

– Harry

 

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You Haven’t Failed https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/you-havent-failed/ https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/you-havent-failed/#comments Tue, 11 Sep 2018 11:46:49 +0000 https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/?p=119853 Congratulations on getting this far. It feels great, doesn’t it? Everything is perfect and has gone pretty much exactly how you planned. Life is so much fun and I’m sure you have it all figured out. But in the words of the great poet Eminem, “Hold your nose because here comes the cold water!”  

Life is hard! You are going fail so many times that you question your whole existence. You are also going to have great successes and think you are the smartest person ever. You're not. You are a human being with all of your personal faults. Knowing that gives you power. Power to be resilient. Power to be humble. Power to be the person other people want to be. Accept it and you will be the best version of yourself. Deny it and you are in for a long painful ride. 

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Dear Future World Changer,

Congratulations on getting this far. It feels great, doesn’t it? Everything is perfect and has gone pretty much exactly how you planned. Life is so much fun and I’m sure you have it all figured out. But in the words of the great poet Eminem, “Hold your nose because here comes the cold water!”

Life is hard! You are going fail so many times that you question your whole existence. You are also going to have great successes and think you are the smartest person ever. You’re not. You are a human being with all of your personal faults. Knowing that gives you power. Power to be resilient. Power to be humble. Power to be the person other people want to be. Accept it and you will be the best version of yourself. Deny it and you are in for a long painful ride.

How do you define success? What is it that you want out of life? Money? Power? Fame? I was asked a question by one of the first coaches that I had in professional baseball, “Why do you play the game?” I would ask myself that question many times over the next 11 years and the answer was always changing. When I was younger, it was all about respect and having people remember my name. Money was a big part of my ‘Why’ but I really just wanted people to know my name.  Youth and early adulthood is such a fun time. The world and all of its ideals are at your fingertips. I wanted it all. Everyone has a ‘why’ and there isn’t a wrong answer. When you know your ‘why’, then ask yourself ‘how’. How are you going to accomplish your goal? As I grew older and adversity started to mount, my reason for playing the game changed. My idea of success needed to change also. We never visualize ourselves as failing or struggling. We have these beautiful pictures in our minds, of how things are going to go perfectly, and in a certain order. But, what if it doesn’t?

These next 5 steps are what I have learned about life and success.

1. Surround yourself with a team of people who are smart and just as focused on their goals as you are. People that you can trust and have your best interest at heart. You cannot be successful on your own. You need a team of warriors all going in the same direction and with the same goals. When you fall, they will pick you back up and vice versa. These friends may change and that’s ok. People change and evolve. You must be focused on your own path and not be dragged down by someone else’s.

2. Don’t be entitled. Just because you have been successful in the past does not guarantee you will be in the future. Every day is a new day and there is someone behind you that would love to take your position. It is a very competitive world out there. Earn your place in it.  To do this, you need to understand you don’t know everything and must be willing to listen and learn. Ask questions and have a desire to learn something new every day. There really is not a finish line in this process. Getting yourself in the frame of mind to make you and the people around you better on a daily basis is the way to happiness and success.

3. Making mistakes or wrong decisions is how you learn. You will not do everything correctly. Those bumps in the road help you make better, wiser, decisions in the future. So-called ‘failure’, sets you up for your next success. Being humble is how you get through these times. Asking your friends or colleagues for help is important and shows maturity. Opening yourself up and being vulnerable is not a weakness but a strength.

4. Set goals. Short term and long term goals are vital to being a successful and focused person. I always write down my goals to hold myself accountable. Goals should be attainable on a short-term basis and push you over the long-term. Visualizing where you want to be in 5 to 10 years is great but you need the small victories on a daily basis to get to the long-term goal. Those small victories can keep you positive and moving in the right direction. Live in the present with an eye on the future, not the other way around. That’s called a dream, not a goal.

5.  Be you. There is so much pressure from the outside world to look a certain way, talk a certain way, and think a certain way. It can all be so confusing. You are special in your own way and are good enough just being yourself. Everyone has an opinion and will most likely tell you what it is. At the end of the day, yours is the only one that matters. Being able to look in the mirror and feel confident in yourself is truly the most important part of all of this. That confidence in yourself will glow and people will follow your lead.

Nothing is going to go exactly how you planned but it doesn’t mean you have failed. It means something better is coming. It will be hard to understand at the time and most likely hurt badly. Believe in yourself, step back, and get some perspective. Understand that you have had success in the past and you know how to do it again. Having a positive attitude and focusing on the positives in your life is the key to getting through these times. Never give up on your dream and if you want it, you will. I believe in you and good luck in changing the world.

– John Patterson

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Finding Your Motivation https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/finding-your-motivation/ https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/finding-your-motivation/#comments Thu, 06 Sep 2018 14:34:26 +0000 https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/?p=119841 First, you will graduate and you will struggle to get a job; let alone a job that fits what you thought you would do for a living. All the jobs you dreamed of having are tenure jobs that are held up by old “gray hairs” that won’t move on until they have enough money in the bank to retire or die. Don’t worry you will likely do the same thing in your old age; it’s the cycle of life. If you're patient and persistent for the next 25 years you might land one of those jobs. The fact is after college unless your parents hook you up with a job you’re a bottom feeder in this world. You’re an infant, a baby, a no experience useless tool that has spent the past sixteen years of your life proving you can memorize information out of textbooks. Your greatest asset will be your heart, your desire, your will to achieve your lifelong vision.

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Dear College Kid,

I wanted to take a moment and write you a letter that will likely not make much sense in your current season of life, but please hold on to this letter and reflect on it over the next couple years.

First, you will graduate and you will struggle to get a job; let alone a job that fits what you thought you would do for a living. All the jobs you dreamed of having are tenure jobs that are held up by old “gray hairs” that won’t move on until they have enough money in the bank to retire or die. Don’t worry you will likely do the same thing in your old age; it’s the cycle of life. If you’re patient and persistent for the next 25 years you might land one of those jobs. The fact is after college unless your parents hook you up with a job you’re a bottom feeder in this world. You’re an infant, a baby, a no experience useless tool that has spent the past sixteen years of your life proving you can memorize information out of textbooks. Your greatest asset will be your heart, your desire, your will to achieve your lifelong vision.

Having that vision is important, but once you have it being able to get there is an entirely different characteristic that many lack. Too often people expect their visions and dreams to simply happen, but expecting something will never get you to your vision.

I understand you wanted that corner office right out of college, I understand you wanted six figures right out of college, but that was just a dream. Your dream is your vision, but your motor to get you there is your internal motivation. Motivation is the tool that is called upon to lift you up when your down, keep you going when it’s hard, remind you why you want that vision and more.  Unfortunately, not everyone is motivated. Most people don’t know how to channel their motivation and often miss success due to being all over the place with where they apply the effort. Have one vision! Have one goal! Exhaust all your resources to achieve that one goal!

If you truly want what you say you want you will have a chip on your shoulder. This saying is one that means you have a grudge, a grievance, or you have been provoked by someone or something. Think about this. No one gets a chip on their shoulder by someone saying nice things to them, by getting everything they desire handed to them, or by being passive. If it’s the system you have a grievance with let it fuel you. If its someone in your past that broke your heart, hurt your feelings, embarrassed you; then hold on to that pain and use it. Keep that chip on your shoulder and channel these moments when you’re tired, when you’re about to give up perusing your dream, or when you feel you’re losing in this rate race we call life, pull these moments together to keep your fire lit. Pull from within and every day take one step forward toward your vision. Stay steadfast as you will fall down, rebound on days you get pushed backward, but stay the course.

 

Though you’re in the real world now keep that childish fire lit, continue chasing the dream, but just understand it will be harder than you expected to achieve. Success is hard work though many play it off like they achieve it with little effort. Understand the journey you are about to embark on. Understand no one will feel sorry for you in the real world or hand you opportunity without sacrifice. Mom and Dad are not responsible for you any longer. Be humble, be charismatic, be reserved, be outgoing, and learn to blend into crowds all while being motivated from within. The only thing people can see is your exterior. They cannot see your heart, see your mind, or understand how hot the flame is inside you from that chip on your shoulder. Harness the energy and use it wisely. Only allow people to see what you want them to see.

Mark Twain once said, “What work I have done I have done because it has been play. If it had been work, I shouldn’t have done it.”

Mark Twain was an idiot. Work is not meant to be fun and success was not meant to just happen.

“Good things don’t happen to good people. Good people make good things happen.” – Dru Riess

Go make it happen and perhaps you have a chance to reach your utopia at a younger age then most do; if at all.

Dru Riess

 

 

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How Do You Talk to Yourself? https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/how-do-you-talk-to-yourself/ https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/how-do-you-talk-to-yourself/#comments Mon, 30 Apr 2018 21:43:32 +0000 https://whereworldchangersmeet.com/?p=119172 When you woke up and drew your first breath this morning, there was far more “right” with you, than “wrong” with you. The rest of your day should go up from there. Welcome to the real world…where details matter, where hard work is rewarded, where being on time is “the easiest thing you’ll do all day,” where “right” is the foundation of all your decision making, and where dreams really do come true.

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Dear Young Professional,

When you woke up and drew your first breath this morning, there was far more “right” with you, than wrong with you.  The rest of your day should go up from there.  Welcome to the real world…where details matter, where hard work is rewarded, where being on time is “the easiest thing you’ll do all day,” where “right” is the foundation of all your decision making, and where dreams really do come true.

You probably weren’t aware, but you get the unique opportunity to change the world today.  I know you weren’t planning on that when you were brushing your teeth this morning, but the “window of change” has opened before your very eyes.  To prepare for this amazing event, you have to do one simple thing; “change the way you talk to yourself.”  You see, before this conversation, you weren’t really sure that you could, or that you wanted to change the world.  You didn’t know that every interaction you have with another human being, is literally a chance to do just that.  But to change the world, you typically have to start with the most important person in it; THE MAN IN THE MIRROR.  When you change the “man in the mirror,” in affect, you’re changing everything he has influence over.

Start working on that man, by replacing two simple words, with two powerful words.  Replace, “I can’t,” with “I am.”  For a good part of your life, the biggest thing that has kept you from accomplishing yours dreams and goals, is those two small words, “I can’t.”  The problem isn’t the words, the problem is that you’ve said them so often, that now you believe them.  And you’ve come to realize that what you truly believe, in the bottom of your heart, is what starts to manifest itself in your life.

So now, “I am ……..,” is the way you start every thought; I am a success, I am a winner, I am capable, I am valuable, I am loved, I am blessed….I am laying the foundation to do everything “right” in my life…I will utilize the power of “right thinking.”  What you think about, you will speak about.  What you speak about, you will bring about.  What you repeatedly say to yourself, is what you slowly become.

Now, go take what you’ve learned about changing yourself, and teach that to the real “most important person in the world;” THE PERSON RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU.  Learn early in your wonderful life that, the quality of your life, will be built around the quality people you share it with.  And learn that EVERYONE has the potential to be “quality people.”

Know that when you take love and kindness, dignity and respect, caring and empathy, and spread it in generous portions on everyone you come in contact with, you really can “change them,” and thus, the world.

-Brian

 

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