My Dear Sweet Superstar!
Yes, I’m talking to you. I’m writing you this letter because I want to remind you how amazingly special you are. There is not one other person on this earth exactly like you. You are as uniquely wonderful, different, and spectacular as each snow flake that falls to this earth. No other person sent to this world has your exact fingerprint, heartprint, or soulprint.
What this means is the things you do on this earth, in the manner that you do them, with your beautiful flare using your gifts and talents combined with your experiences – can ONLY be done by YOU! The impact that you make on this world is so phenomenally unique and special that you can’t NOT flourish if you continually develop your gifts and talents!
We were sent to this earth to develop ourselves, develop our gifts, and develop our talents so we can bless other people with our greatness. It’s not a nicety, it’s a necessity and my dear sweet friend, it is our RESPONSIBILITY! Take your responsibility seriously.
We were given these gifts and talents to not just bless ourselves; we were given these gifts and talents so we can bless others. To help make other people’s lives better in whatever ways our gifts and talents can do so. Whether it’s music, art, creation, organization, problem solving, inspiration, love, math, science, etc…
Life is a series of peaks and valleys. Not everything is going to go your way. But it’s your attitude that makes the difference.
I’ve been through a lot of victories but I’ve been through dark times also. One of the worst moments in my life was as a single mother of 3 beautiful, young children. The exact scene was Christmas Eve, the first Christmas as a single mom.
Making the decision to divorce is never easy, making the decision to divorce with 3 small children when you are not employed is even more difficult. But it was a decision I knew I had to make for the good of my own growth and development which would be the best decision for my children.
I see a lot of moms making decisions, they believe, are the best for their kids, sacrificing themselves. What I’ve learned along my journey and many hours of knees on the floor in prayer, is that was is best for me and my development is what is best for my kids. I have to be strong for my children to be safe.
It was after years of prayer and soul searching that I knew I had to divorce my kid’s father so I could soar which in turn would be the best thing I could ever do for my kids.
The first Christmas Eve as a single mom I woke up to $12 in my checking account, not enough money to buy any gifts much less one. I drove to the ATM machine every hour on the hour that day to wait for my check to be automatically deposited into my account so I could do my Christmas shopping for my children. Every time I would check and the money wasn’t yet deposited I would drive off saying to myself, “It won’t be like this forever. It won’t be like this forever.” I repeated that sentence over and over again in my head and even said it out loud as tears ran down my face. I was determined there would not be another Christmas like that one in my life.
At 2am on Christmas I was in Wal-Mart buying my children’s gifts that year. I was up the rest of the night wrapping and preparing for their happy, excited faces to wake up to gifts under the tree with a mother sharing with them the reason for the season with love and a smile on her face.
I didn’t care about the pain I had to endure to get to where I was on that Christmas morning because I knew that pain had a purpose.
I got through it. And you will too. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy. I’m saying that you are in control of your mindset and the faster that you can eliminate toxic people from your world the better your mind so it’s going to be.
You are going to be knocked down; you’re supposed to, that is what will make you strong, develop compassion, empathy, and understanding for other people. You are going to feel like giving up; this is how you develop your tenacity, belief, and strength. You are going to be afraid; this is how you develop trust and faith.
It’s going to take time; this is how you develop consistency, discipline, and persistence. It also takes time to develop, master your skills, and to create your master piece. Typically, this time also allows you the opportunity to find the right people and get away from the wrong people along your journey. It’s not always going to be easy; it’s not supposed to be easy. If it was easy the exhilaration of success wouldn’t feel as amazing. The entire process wouldn’t be appreciated. The lessons we need to learn wouldn’t be learned.
You’re going to have to work hard, I mean really hard; this helps develop your decision-making skills and overall character. You’re going to have to give things up and prioritize what’s most important. There will be days you have to get up early, stay up late, and some days not sleep at all. You’re not going to be able to “play” all the time. You’re going to have to give some things up for the greater good. You’re not going to be able to get caught up in the “drama”.
Here’s a tip – Do what you NEED to do first, then do what you want to do second. Example: If you need to do an assignment, read, make an important call and you want to go to dinner with your friends. Do the assignment, read, make the important call FIRST before you go to dinner with your friends. If you go to dinner first, you won’t get to your important items.
Make the commitment to NEVER QUITTING before you start! Then your decision to win, succeed, soar has already been made which dictates all the decisions that follow. Make sense? You CAN DO THIS! YOU WILL DO THIS! I WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU! YOU ARE NEVER ALONE!
I share all this with you for the following reasons. I want you to know your responsibility. You can never stop developing yourself. Your gifts and talents were given to you to bless others. When you’re not developing your gifts and talents and blessing the world with them, it doesn’t just hurt you, it robs all those that you are supposed to bless.
I want you to always know how uniquely special you are. Never compare yourself to others. When you do, you start to take away from your uniqueness. You get confused, your vision starts to blur, and you will eventually not be able to identify what makes you special. If your gift is song, you will sing the songs of your heart differently than anyone else. Remember your power is YOU!
I want you to know what to expect so you don’t get side track or discouraged. This typically starts when you start thinking about yourself more than your purpose. You start to say to yourself, “I’m tired.” “I can’t do this anymore, it’s too hard.” “I’m not good enough.” “I don’t feel good.” “I’m scared.” “This is taking too long for me.” “I don’t have enough money to continue.” Etc… All the “I” statements will start you on a distraction path that takes you away from your purpose. Having the right expectations is critical. Success happens in decades. Just accept this fact, keep your head down, and continue working.
I want you to NEVER STOP! I will be the wind beneath your wings, the training wheels on your tricycle, the small whisper, the loud scream to remind you – YOU CAN NEVER QUIT!
I want you to know you MUST find the RIGHT people! You cannot succeed, soar, or win hanging around the wrong people. If you are not going up, getting better, doing more, it means you don’t have your wagon hitched to a leader. Nothing, and I repeat, nothing happens without a leader. You MUST hitch your wagon to real leaders. If you do, every year you will grow.
Always have faith that the journey you’re on is filled with the twists and turns you need to mold yourself in exactly the way you’re supposed to be molded. You can take a quicker path by doing more of the right things right with the right people having the right attitude being compliant to the absolute truths of the world….but if you choose to forge your own path remember there will be lessons you learn along the way that will help you be a blessing to others. Life is like a maze. There’s one way in and one way out. You’ll be fine as long as you keep moving. Success happens in action. You can’t stop.
Nothing and I repeat nothing you experience will go to waste if you continue your journey.
Go out into the world and BLESS people with your GREATNESS! It’s your destiny and responsibility! Not only can I not wait to see your creations, I am honored to be a part of your journey.
Until we meet again my dear sweet friend,
Be BIG! Be BOLD! Be YOU!
I LOVE YOU!
– Gens Johnson
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